When friends find out that I am on an online dating site, they invariably groan and wonder why. I have had some success in the past but I have also had my share of dates that turned out to be nothing more than comedy gold. Dates that I have reconstructed for giggling/horrified friends like a comedian mining the very best material ever. If you have ever considered signing up for a dating site, you have to suspend some of your preconceptions and in part, leave your ego at the door.
There are literally thousands of these sites, including the general population ones right down to the very narrow spectrum types. The more narrowly defined, the easier to find the right match, at least in theory. There are paid sites and there are free sites. And they all claim that they alone are the very best at finding your true love. There are even sites for married people who are looking to start an affair. There is no end to the type of dating site that you might find once you start looking.
If you are new to this style of dating, it is best to go with a free site and create a profile. Be as honest as possible and post your kindest picture even if you personally loathe it. Trust me, there is nothing that has not floated past the screens of these dating site moderators. In fact, and I mean no disrespect at all, but I did spot a lovely woman who had on what looked like a faded housecoat and a clearly visible oxygen tube under the headline "only as old as you feel". Further down in her profile, she mentioned a real zest for life and the desire to "get out and do things". Obviously, that was the picture that this lady was most comfortable with, so you should follow suit and use what makes you happiest. Let the real you shine through.
Be realistic with your expectations and your desires but be careful of how you word them. If you say you want to be married, many men will add the words "right now" automatically. If you say that you are just looking for dating for now, some will see that as an invitation to try to wine and dine you and then rush you to something physical. Some things need to be more spelled out.
Will you find your knight in shining armor or your perfect princess? Not necessarily but you might find someone who is either the one or someone who could be at least, in the top five.
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